Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Book Signing - Author Tina Martin - Secrets On Lake Drive

Book Signing
Author Tina Martin will be signing copies of her novel, Secrets On Lake Drive January 8, 2011 at Borders. If you are in the Charlotte area, stop by to join the discussion and pick up an excerpt of her new release, Another Man's Treasure, coming March 15, 2011.

Borders - Northlake Mall
6801 Northlake Mall Drive, Charlotte, NC

1-3 p.m.

Tina Martin is the author of two novels including Secrets On Lake Drive and the forthcoming, Another Man's Treasure. You can find out more by visiting her website:

6 Tips for Women to start the New Year Out the Happy Way!

The New Year is approaching fast and fierce. In order for you to feel happy, you have to move and grow. Simply put, you have to take your life to a new level.
Example: Are you a good mom? Then what can you do to become a better mom. Are you a great dancer? Then what extra moves could you learn to become even greater? Are you doing really well in your career? Then what can you do to implement new business decisions or ideas to further your career?

Okay I think you get the picture. Whatever you think you are good at, or maybe not so good at, what exactly can you do to make it better?

What are you passionate about? What are your dreams and goals? Ladies, what do you want out of life? Be clear, specific, and write them down.

Here are 6 MUSTS to start out the New Year correct

1. Simply decide to be happy. To be happy is YOUR choice.

2. Be true to who you are. Be happy with who you are.

3. Be comfortable and creative in your own skin. Literally!

4. Remember and acknowledge strong and inspiring moments in your life and embrace them. These moments will help you create new moments in your life.

5. You have to take steps toward your goals. Every single step you take toward your goals will give you feedback on your direction. Whatever you do, keep moving. Movement is life. Movement is an element of happiness.

6. Remember: You are beautiful. Your worth as a woman is priceless. It’s the truth!

Have a wonderful holiday season and a Happy New Year. Embrace life, embrace your beauty, love others, give, show gratitude, and love yourself. Celebrate all the magnificent things and people who are a part of your life.

Tinisha Nicole Johnson is an author, writer, and poet. Besides writing, she also hosts political and sports conferences. The tips above were based on her non-fiction book Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself as a Black Woman. To learn more, visit the author at her website:

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Congressional Black Caucus 2010 - Author Tinisha Nicole Johnson

I went to the Black Congressional Caucus in Washington DC in September 2010. It was a fantastic experience. I truly enjoyed it. I was invited along with my publisher of Xpress Yourself Publishing Jessica Tiles. It was my first trip to Washington DC. I mean I was pretty impressed with Washington DC in general. There are a lot of movers and shakers there. I got to network and meet other professional people.

Feel free to check out the photos of my trip on my Facebook page. A high school friend of mine lives there, so I was blessed to stay with her and also tour a bit of DC. I’ve been busy thus far this year I must say with a lot of different writing projects, including working on a screenplay. If you aren’t already signed up to my newsletter, please go to my website and sign up at the bottom on my home page:

Friday, October 8, 2010

From Victim to Survivor, I did it and you can too!

Domestic abuse, also known asspousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence.
Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” Abusers use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her thumb. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you.
Please recognize the signs of abuse.

But, there is help and HOPE.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at:
1-800-799-7233 or visit them online @
Safe Horizon
Love Is Not Abuse
For local help in Asheville, NC visit, , they also have links to other agencies around the country.
For the legal help you'll need contact,
And when women say, "But, I'm staying for the children." Don't! The abuse you endure affects them too.

Again, if you are being abused please get help. Despite what many people believe, domestic violence and abuse is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his or her behavior. In fact, abusive behavior and violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to control you.

If you are an abuser, you most definitely need to get help and there is help for you, too. Contact your local United Way 211, by dialing 211 from your landline, visiting or dialing their national line from your mobile phone at 703.836.7112 and they well direct you to your local branch.

Monday, August 9, 2010

e-Lit Magazine is LIVE!


Xpress Yourself Publishing, LLC
Contact: Jessica Tilles
P.O. Box 1615
Upper Marlboro, MD 20773
Phone: (301) 390-3645

e-Lit Magazine is LIVE!

August 9, 2010, Upper Marlboro, Maryland—Jessica Tilles and Xpress Yourself Publishing announces the launch of its new online platform for authors and lovers of literature, e-Lit Magazine. August 8, 2010 marks the first monthly issue of e-Lit Magazine, which replaces the long-running Erotic Expressions, receiving well over 10,000 unique visitors per month.

“Erotic Expressions was too broad, and I wanted to offer a potpourri to lovers of literature. e-Lit Magazine is the perfect platform for authors to reach an additional 10,000 unique visitors per month. While the name changes, much of the content for Erotic Expressions will remain under e-Lit Magazine, as well as the readership. On e-Lit Magazine, there is something for everyone. With each month, the magazine will grow,” says Jessica Tilles, editor-in-chief, best-selling author of Anything Goes, In My Sisters’ Corner, Apple Tree, Sweet Revenge, Fatal Desire, Unfinished Business, Erogenous Zone: A Sexual Voyage and Loving Simone, award-winning publisher of Xpress Yourself Publishing, speaker and entrepreneur.

“I LOVE the site. You did a fantastic job!!!!,” says Lee MacDonald of The Renaissance Group, and Jessica Tilles concurs. “Readers and my family of authors have been very good to me, and I wanted to give them something. e-Lit Magazine is that something. In addition to authors, and what is going on in the literary industry, I want to feature book clubs, avid readers, industry insiders, writing tips and workshops, etc. The magazine has a ton of possibilities and great potential, and I’m simply going to have a good time with it!”

e-Lit Magazine offers author features, new releases, book reviews, stories, poetry, and so much more. For its premier issue, e-Lit Magazine is featuring authors Trice Hickman, James W. Lewis, JJ Michael, Earnell Brown, Elaine Meryl Brown, Marsha Haygood, and Rhonda Joy McLean.

Read the premier issue, be featured or submit stories, by visiting

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Friday, July 16, 2010

A New Voice in Romance...

Xpress Yourself Publishing announces the debut release of Secrets on Lake Drive by new romance author and Charlotte, North Carolina native Tina Martin.

Will he ever care enough to tell her?
(ISBN: 978-0-9845273-0-4, $14.95)

Monica and Sean clash at a parent-teacher conference when Monica accuses Sean of being too occupied with making money and chasing women to take a real interest in his son’s life. But Sean is no pushover. He knows how to hold his own and deal with Monica, but after the incident at school, he’s also come to realize that he can use Monica’s devotion to his advantage. He propositions her to move into his home to babysit five-year-old Roman for the three months of summer break, offering her a substantial amount of money, hoping that she’ll accept. But is babysitting the only reason he’s so anxious to get her into his mansion?

Monica accepts his offer against her better judgment, knowing the rumors of Sean and his womanizing ways. She tells herself that she’s doing this for Roman – that she can avoid her new, sexy, summer boss – his chiseled chest, pretty green eyes and charm that just won’t quit. But after only a few weeks, Monica finds it a struggle to keep her eyes off of Sean. Can she handle staying focused on her babysitting gig for three months without being swept off of her feet by Milwaukee’s finest? Or is Sean’s game too much for the young, conservative teacher to handle?

Having been heartbroken in the past, Monica is reluctant to play this dangerous game with a confirmed heartbreaker. But it’s what she doesn’t know about Sean that she should be concerned about. Sean knows her well – too well, and it’s those secrets that have the potential to make her love him or hate him.

Secrets On Lake Drive is an emotional story about a woman looking to correct wrongs in her life that could easily be solved by the secrets Sean quietly carries with him. The question is, will he ever care enough to tell her?

Fresh, real and exciting, Tina Martin is making her mark on the literary scene and is striding to take her seat next to some of the industry’s great Romance writers, with her debut novel, Secrets on Lake Drive.
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Jessica Tilles, best-selling author and award-winning publisher of Xpress Yourself Publishing, chats candidly with Tina Martin.

Jessica: So, Tina, tell us about your passion for writing. What drives you? What impact do you want your book to make on the readers?

Tina: My passion for writing stems from my vivid imagination and an insatiable desire to have others see life through my creativity. I have a philosophy that I write to create my own world, and it’s my goal as a writer to take the reader out of their world and into mine.

I want readers to be entertained by stories of love & relationships, hope, failures and successes.

Jessica: Introduce us to your book, Secrets on Lake Drive.

Tina: Secrets On Lake Drive is a story of two people, Monica and Sean, who both have had failed relationships. She’s his son’s teacher. He’s a single father. They clash over what Monica considers to be child neglect, but after the matter is settled, they get to know each other on a personal level, finding out slowly that nothing is what it seems in any circumstance. It is an emotional, suspenseful romance about a woman looking to correct wrongs in her life that could easily be solved by the secrets Sean quietly carries with him.

Jessica: What inspired you to write this story?

Tina: I wrote this story because appearances are not always what they seem. Monica seems to have her life together, but she doesn’t by any means. Sean is rumored to be a womanizer and a dog just because he’s handsome (and single) with a lot of money. I think it’s important for people to not judge one another and find deeper meaning in friendships and relationships.

Jessica: Why a romance novel?

Tina: Why do we breathe? Why do we live? Why do we wake up in the morning? In some way or another, we all want to be loved, and my novels epitomize the desire within us all to love, to be in love and to be loved.

Jessica: On a personal note, what are your hobbies when you’re not weaving great stories?

Tina: I enjoy writing, bike riding, relaxing at the beach, writing poetry and spending time with family.

TINA MARTIN was born in Ahoskie, North Carolina. She took an interest in writing in high school. After graduating she wrote her first poem A Love So Extraordinary, and from that point forward, she used writing as an outlet to express all the drama going on in her life during that time.

It wasn’t until enrolling in college that she decided to explore fiction writing. In a Creative Writing course, she gained more knowledge on how to be creative and expressive through words. She cruised through the course with a perfect grade and from that point forward, she knew she had found her calling.

Tina has always been very talented and comes from a rich background of learning – Creative Writing, Arts, Acting, Desktop Publishing and Web Design. Graduating from college with a degree in Computer Technology and a certification in Accounting, her professors urged her to keep going to school to pursue even more technical knowledge, but Tina had other plans.

In 2007, Tina self-published her collection of poetry called Love Like Yours. Friends and family praise her for deep thoughts and expressions in her work which motivates her to continue doing what she loves.

Tina resides with her husband and son in Charlotte, North Carolina where she finished her novel, Secrets On Lake Drive, which is available in bookstores everywhere and at your favorite online retailer.

You can read more about Tina Martin at
For more information, to order book, or to schedule an interview or appearance, please call (301) 390-3645 or email

Xpress Yourself Publishing, LLC
P.O. Box 1615, Upper Marlboro, MD 20773
Ph. 301-390-3645

Monday, July 5, 2010

Join Us Live Tuesday 7/27/10 @ 8pm EST!!!

Out of the Box hostess, Martha Kimbrough
Interviews Allyson M. Deese, co-author of
Somebody Prayed for Me
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Friday, June 11, 2010

Proof is in the Mail!

Hello Everyone!

A sincere THANK YOU to The Pantheon Collective for acknowledging me and The Writer's Assistant in their daily blog! I'm elated to have another satisfied client!

Read the blog: Proof is in the Mail! — The Pantheon Collective (TPC)

Also, I ENJOYED getting a sneak peek at SELLOUT by James A. Lewis. Once this book has been released, I urge you all to pick up your copy. Believe me, it is an excellent read. James is a dynamite storyteller; reminds me of Eric Jerome Dickey.

The Writer's Assistant is offering a 20% discount on all services to ALL CURRENT EDC-Creations clients. If you're working with Ella Curry, I would love to work with you, too!

For more information on The Writer's Assistant, visit or email me directly at We've added great new services, so check them out!

All the best,

Jessica Tilles
Award-winning Publisher, Xpress Yourself Publishing

Founder, The Writer's Assistant

"It is much easier to walk as a winning woman, amongst winning people who encourage you to pursue your winning destiny." — Tanya White, author of Girl, You Can Win!

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Touched by Mama

Touched by Mama
by Brenda Anderson

ISBN: 978-0-9845273-3-5
Retail: $9.95
Available June 1, 2010

Have you ever been exposed to the wondrous miracle of death? Better yet, what is death? For many people, death is accompanied by deep sorrow, silent fear, tremendous pain and hollow emptiness. So, one might ask, “How in the world can anyone associate death with a miracle?”

Touched by Mama was written from our family to yours about what we experienced and learned about the beauty of life and death. Before we can attempt to comprehend the mysteries of death, we must first explore the aspects of life. The process of death is the same for all of us; however, the depth of our experience with death, like childbirth, is as different as we are unique. It is our prayer that everyone who reads this book will first be blessed and filled by the Glory of God and secondly understands that death is a miraculous process, just like the amazing metamorphosis of a butterfly.

"Brenda Anderson writes with unflinching honesty and and clear-eyed compassion.
I was brought to tears, and was touched by Mama, too."

Jessica Tilles, Award-Winning Publisher and
Best-Selling Author of Loving Simone.

Read more about Touched by Mama and Brenda Anderson at!

Monday, April 19, 2010

The kind of book that wives will love to read and husbands love to hate...

Some wives have wondered why their husband won’t listen to them. And some have resigned to themselves that he never will. Maybe with some understanding there is hope:

—A husband tends to use only half of his brain while listening; a wife tends to use both sides of her brain.

—Men tend not to be emotional. They also tend not to talk as much as a woman. So they don’t provide women with the kind of feedback that they desire.

—There is a tendency in some people to resist while listening to others.
—The Bible exhorts husbands to love their wives and dwell with them with understanding. There are also examples of husbands who listened to their wives for their benefit or their own peril.

Using real-life and personal examples, a famous model of communication, and Bible references, popular Internet talk show host S.B. Redd offers a practical approach to improving marriage by encouraging husbands to listen to their wives.
Husbands, Listen to Your Wives (ISBN: 978-0-9845273-2-8, Xpress Yourself Publishing) is the kind of book that wives will love to read and husbands love to hate. But, on June 17, 2010, if a husband dares to read S.B. Redd’s eye opener, he just might learn a trick or two in avoiding the doghouse.

Friday, March 26, 2010

WGN-TV Interview - Midday News

Today has got to be the most exciting time of my writing career. As I sit and type this blog, I am in Chicago, Illinois. I was interviewed this morning at the WGN-TV studio by Steve Sanders who is a veteran broadcast journalist.

I talked about my most recent book, Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself as a Black Woman. I am so passionate about this book and felt so honored to have talked and spread the word about it. Although the book is catered towards women of color, certain subject matter is suitable for any woman wanting to improve qualities of her life.

Chicago is the number three market, right behind New York, and Los Angeles. The interview only lasted about 5 minutes. The time went by so quick. The night before, I was a nervous wreck, wondering if I’d answer the questions correctly. After the interview was over, there was so many things that went through my mind – Did I look stupid? Was my hair sticking up? Did I sound like I knew what I was talking about? It's so funny when I think about it now. LOL

I have family in Chicago, and my cousin came down to the studio with me. And she took pictures. She said I did great, so I felt comforted.

Well, that’s my quick blog for the day. I have a virtual book tour for the whole month of April. Come back, and check out where I’ll be online.

Thank you for the time it took to read this. I appreciate my fans so much.

Tinisha Nicole Johnson
A Writer's Fantasy
Author, Writer, & Poet

Monday, March 22, 2010

Caramel Vixen's Fave Online Plus Size Retailers

Caramel Vixen's List of Favorite Plus Size Online Retailers

If you ain't feelin' the plus size wear...keep it to yourself! We are big, fabulous and here to stay!! They carry sizes 1 - 12 X (clubwear and "freak-um" dresses galore) The site is adorable I love this site! Get a lot of my tops here. I get a lot of my career wear here. Beautifully well crafted clothing, but, kinda on the expensive side. I often catch the clearance sales! For the young and fashionable! Found them in my search, I love this site. Because every girl should have a great formal.

I hope this list helps ladies... and don't forget your sexy BBW read Office Affairs by Caramel Vixen

Caramel Vixen

Sunday, February 28, 2010

XYP Author Chosen as Relationship Expert on Urban Singles Connection

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Congratulations are in order for Xpress Yourself Publishing author Tinisha Nicole Johnson! Tinisha has earned the honor of being the relationship expert for Urban Singles Connection. Click to read more:

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Thursday, February 18, 2010

5 Secrets for Dating in The New Year

A New Year and a New You. Dating is as old as molasses; however, there are new ideas and perceptions when it comes to dating in this hi-tech day and age. Many are single or are recently getting out relationships and marriages. If you are just joining the dating scene as a woman, there are some important things to consider before you go on that first date.

1. Love Yourself First
If you are depressed or have low self-esteem, you need to deal with that immediately before you even think about entering the dating scene. Do not think that dating someone and searching for love is going to cure your low self-esteem or depression. It will not. In fact, getting involved with someone while you’re low on self-love may very well make you feel worse.

Don’t be so desperate to jump into a relationship, because when we are low on self-love, we sometimes have too many expectations of another, and we rely on someone else, like a man to make us feel loved. Men can sometimes notice these types of women. They are usually the ones who will go all out of their way to please a man’s every need, and will sleep with a man too quickly.

These men may very well take advantage of you, or say things that sound wonderful, but actually, they don’t really mean a word of it. It boils down to a man’s actions that will bring his true colors out. Always love yourself first. That is Rule #1. Loving yourself first is a beautiful quality that any real man will appreciate. Continue Reading by clicking here...

Tinisha Nicole Johnson is an author, writer, and poet. “5 Secrets for Dating in the New Year” is based off her non-fiction, self-help book Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself as a Black Woman. Tinisha also hosts political and sports teleconferences as a profession. Learn more and connect with the author at her website:

Stayed tuned to Tinisha's April Virtual Book Tour….Visit her website to check out where she'll be…More information to come…

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day

DAY SEVEN: Girl Talk

Sharing sexual secrets with your best girlfriend can be an invaluable resource. Unfortunately, a lot of us do not tap into this resource because we are afraid of what our friends will think of us. We have to remember that as women, we are nurturers and healers by nature and when we share our vast knowledge with each other, it can be life changing. It is important to feel free to talk openly and honestly with each other in a trusting and safe environment.
Dr. Hilda Hutcherson suggests that women form sisterhood groups. These groups should be with women whom you like and trust and the group should meet regularly. Be sure to sure to serve plenty of food and drinks for a friendly and fun atmosphere. Some of Dr. Hutcherson's suggestions for getting the sharing ball rolling are as follows:

1. Have each sisterhood member write her own erotic fantasy and place it in a large bowl to ensure anonymity. After fellowship, food and a few glasses of wine, each member will take turns pulling a fantasy from the bowl and reading it aloud to the group. You will be surprised at how much you will learn by listening to someone else's fantasy. By the end of the evening, each woman won't be able to wait to get home to her partner.

2.Call your local Passion Party representative to give a presentation on erotic toys to your group. The representative will display erotic toys, explain how they work and offer them for sale to your group. Or, you can plan a field trip with your group to an adult store to explore, sample and purchase erotic toys.

3. Invite the group over for a "recipe" swap. Have each woman write her favorite sexual techique on a recipe card and place it in a bowl. Each woman takes a card as she is leaving the gathering. At the next meeting, each woman reveals what recipe she tried and how it worked for her.

Again, when trying something new, it is important to keep an open mind and have fun.

Source(s): Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve by Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day

DAY SIX: Sexy Games

Remember how much fun you had playing games as a kid? It was exciting to finally find your hide and seek playmate or to be top dog in a competitive game of Monopoly.
It can be even more exciting,not to mention arousing to play these games and countless others with your lover. All that is needed is an open mind and a little imagination.
Strip poker is a classic game for couples. You can actually add "strip" to any game and make it more interesting. For example, when playing Monopoly, every time your partner lands on your property or rolls a certain number with the dice, you can have him or her remove a piece of clothing of your choice. Naked Twister is another arousing game for couples to play. But don't think that game time is limited to card or board games.
Role play can be equally as much fun and the possibilities are endless. You can arrange for your lover to meet you at a restaurant or bar and pretend to be a stranger who propositions you for a one night stand. How about a game of doctor? One of you can pretend to be the doctor who gives his or her patient a very thorough examination.
The point is to feel free to explore other avenues of enhancing your sex life.

Hazel Mills

Monday, February 8, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day

DAY FIVE: Talk Dirty

Some women are embarrassed to even think dirty so talking dirty is definitely out of the question. But when you stop cringing and let your guard down and just try it, you may find that engaging in a little nasty talk can be quite arousing and stimulating.
Quite frankly, I don't see anything wrong with two adults who are involved in a healthy relationship indulging in an erotic exchange. This is a sure fire way to be an open communicator about your needs, desires or fantasies and to increase the passion in your relationship. Remember, a confident woman is a sexy woman.
Don't know what to say? You can start your research by reading erotica and paying careful attention to the bold and uninhibited phrases used to described what is happening in the story. It may even be a good idea to read together.
You may find it easier to write dirty than talk dirty. In this case, send your lover a sexy text message or email, detailing your intentions.
You can also practice talking dirty out loud to yourself. The goal is to get comfortable with the taste of the words in your mouth until they just roll off your tongue.
Whatever you do, don't forget to have fun doing it and encourage your partner to do the same.

Hazel Mills

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day


Why not be the stars in your own erotic movie? This is a certain arousal booster. Using a tripod, position the video camera with lens facing toward the bed and film your lovemaking session. ONE COPY ONLY PLEASE unless you and your lover look forward to having your business go viral on the internet.
Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need and Deserve, if you are too shy for the big screen, you can place a tape recorder at the hea of the bed and record your sexy sounds during lovemaking. Listen together later to put you in a sexy mood.

Saturday, February 6, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day

DAY THREE: Adventuring Out of the Nest

Sex in the same place, at the same time quickly becomes routine and dull. A truly sensually erotic playmate will add spice to a long-term love affair by initiating sex (day two's tip) in varied and unusual places and at unexpected times. Something as simple as moving to a different room can lend an air of excitement to your sex play. Men love variety and you can provide all the novelty he'll ever need by being creative about where you seduce him.

1.Take it out of the bedroom. Seduce him while the two of you are watching television together in the living room. That big armchair would make a wonderful playpen. You can also try the kitchen counter, the bathroom floor or the attic. All are incredibly erotic spots for love trysts, if you make them so.

2.Your own backyard. While he is mowing the lawn, surprise him by leading him into the bushes for some truly wild lovemaking. You can also have sex on your porch swings or hammock. There is something intoxicating about the thrill of possible discovery.

3.The car. Your car is like your own personal love-making cocoon. Attack him in the back seat and it will be like reliving your teenage years.

4.Going up. When the two of you are alone on the elevator, take the opportunity to blow more than his mind. Have him hold the "door close" button while you live him a nice little oral treat.

5. Let's party. Cleverly excuse yourselves from a party or wedding reception and escape into the nearest bathroom, lock the door and go at it.

Wherever you make love, the point is to be creative and keep the relationship new and exciting. Remember, no one likes stale crackers.

Source(s) quoted: 203 Ways to Drive a Man Wild in Bed by Olivia St. Claire

Friday, February 5, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day

Day Two: Initiate

Nothing turns a man on more than feeling wanted by his lover. Initiating lovemaking is admitting that you enjoy sex with him and you want more of it. Let's be honest... that's a feeling we all love.
Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting The Sex You Want, Need and Desire, you should make an effort to tell your man how much he turns you on and you'll find out how such a small gesture can make a big impact on your sex life and relationship.

A lot of women often shy away from initiating sex because our mothers have told us that "good girls" shouldn't ask for sex. Also, there is the fear that he may reject our advances. What would be more humiliating, right? Wrong! How can we expect to get what we want if we don't ask for it? Men certainly don't have this problem. They set themselves up for rejection all the time yet they keep asking.

How do you initiate sex? Well, I'm glad you asked. Here are a few suggestions:

1. Start with my tip from Day One. Kiss your man, deeply and passionately.

2. Whisper what you want in his ear. Don't be afraid to be explicit in your request. Tell him what you want to do to him and what you want him to do to you.

3. Grab his crotch. You can't get a more direct approach than this.

4. Give him a lap dance. Wear sexy lingerie and straddle him while gyrating and swirling your hips on his lap. Touching you is not allowed and maintaining eye contact is sexy as hell. "Cater 2U" by Destiny's Child is a great song to lap dance to (don't ask me how I know).

5. Bathe him. Like women, men love having it be all about them. Fill a tub with warm water. Sprinkle in some aromatherapy oil and light a few scented candles. Undress him and guide him into the tub. Lovingly wash and stroke every inch of his body.

These are just a few ways to seduce your man. Be creative. The goal is to let him know how much you crave him and that you can't wait to ride him into the night.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Sensuality 101: Ten Days, Ten Tips for a Spicy Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is ten (10) days away and some of us are making plans for a quiet weekend getaway, romantic dinners, ordering flowers, purchasing red lingerie, learning a new bedroom trick or two, etc. All of these love day rituals are wonderful but did you know that adding a little sensuality to your sexuality can send your Valentine's Day into orbit?
And, who says you have to wait until February 14th to get started? How about ten days of toe-curling foreplay? I will post a spicy new tip everyday until Valentine's Day and you can turn Valentine's Day into Valentine's Week.


When was the last time you really kissed your partner? I am not talking about a peck on the cheek. I mean a REAL kiss like you did when the relationship was fresh and new and one touch of their lips on yours would make your heart pound and your breathing shallow and your soul stir. Do you remember? What? No? Shame on you! No worries because today is your lucky day (and his/hers)!

Kissing seems like such a simple place to begin but you wouldn't believe how many people really have no idea how to give or receive a mind-numbing kiss. Kissing is becoming a lost art. We have forgotten how deeply erotic and sensuous a kiss can be.

According to Olivia St. Claire, author of 203 Ways To Drive a Man Wild in Bed, if you approach each kiss with a sense of wonder, you'll be well on your way to creating a very sensual experience. St. Claire also suggests that you concentrate on the sensation of lip against lip, tongue on tongue, wet against dry, and you'll startle him into an early erection. He, too, will remember the excitement and electric discovery of that first kiss.

1. Close your eyes. Kissing is a performance to be felt not watched. There is something magical that happens when both of you relinquish control and allow your emotions to guide the kiss. The vulnerability and mystery of closing your eyes enhances the kiss for both of you.

2. Let your fingers do the walking while your tongue does the talking. Don't be afraid to caress your partner as your tongues playfully dart in and out of each others mouths. Stroke his face, the back of his head or neck. Grab and squeeze his ass.

3. Don't forget to moan or sigh during the kiss. Let him know that you are enjoying this intimate moment.

4. Two highly erogenous zones are the corners of his mouth. Gently lick/kiss these areas.

5. Invite him into the inside of your lips during a deep kiss. This area is softer and more sensitive. It is also a deeply intimate gesture.

Of course, no one said that kissing has to be limited to the lips. By all means, feel free to take the show on a tour all over his body. The nibbling, licking and kissing will drive him wild. Don't worry whether or not you are doing it right. His responses will be a the guidance you'll need.

Day 35...It's Getting Easier

Good morning,
Today is February 4th and I have survived thirty-five (35) days Wal-Mart free! Can you believe it? I sure can't. As each day passes, it is getting easier and easier not to fall off the wagon. I mean, I don't even think about going to Wal-Mart when I plan my shopping errands. And when a Wal-Mart sales paper comes in the mail, I put it in file #666 without so much as a glance. I am celebrating my success, however, I am very aware that there are still 330 days left in my journey and only time will tell whether I can continue to stay the course.
What have you resolved the give up or do more of in 2010? I'd love to hear how you've progressed...or not. Are you struggling to keep focused? Have you given up and decided to try again next year? Come on. Talk to me.
Until next time...peace,


Tuesday, February 2, 2010


By Rekaya Gibson

Your entire life you heard the adage, "A way to a man's heart is through his stomach," however, you cannot cook. That is not a problem. Here are five tips to help you fake preparing a meal for that special person, just in time for Valentine's Day.

1) Buy prepared foods from the grocery store's deli. They taste homemade without all the fuss. The roasted chicken is awesome! I know you smell when you go into the store.

2) Presentation is everything! Invest in a tablecloth, candleholders, and candles from a discount store. Break out the matching dishes or purchase some from the dollar store. Use the nice wineglasses no matter if you are serving wine or sparkling apple cider. It still adds a nice touch to the table.

 3) Warm the food on the stove or in the oven. The aromas will circulate throughout the house, giving the illusion that you have been cooking. Depending on the meal, heat up 15-20 minutes prior to guest(s) arriving.

4) Add your favorite herbs or spices to the dish. For example, if you use a spaghetti sauce from a jar, sprinkle a little basil in it. I like to add red peppers flakes for an extra kick.

 5) Serve food on platters and in serving bowls. Scoop prepared pudding into a martini glass and garnish with a pirouette cookie.

It still takes some effort on your part to fake it, but you can handle it. You probably did it in the past or at least thought about it. If so, share what you did. Thank you!

2010 Winter Virtual Book Tour Stop - About the Author: Rekaya Gibson’s love for food is evident throughout her fiction work, “The Food Temptress,” and her children’s book, “Are There French Fries in Heaven?” Some of her nonfiction articles have appeared in the Cabo Living Magazine, Desert Saints Magazine, and Lake of the Ozarks Second Home Living Magazine. In 2006, she self-published an e-Book, “Wow Them With Your Grant Proposal” under her own e-publishing company, Gibson Girl Publishing Company. She holds a Master’s degree in Public Administration from the University of New Orleans. Rekaya resides in Las Vegas, Nevada. For additional information, go to

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Live Your Best Life!

A Tell All Book That Has Black Women Living A More Passionate and Fulfilling Life

Xpress Yourself Publishing announces the release of
Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself As A Black Woman by Denver, Colorado author Tinisha Nicole Johnson.

Statistics for black women range from status in careers, single parenting, and negative relationships with black men, to name a few. They are the minority of the minority and are put into a stand-alone category, facing challenges that other races of women may never face.
Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself As A Black Woman is a revolutionary book into the culture of Black women, revealing how to live a more passionate and fulfilling life, as well as addressing key issues such as self-worth, the definition of true happiness, and the five most common types of Black women.

Tanya White, empowerment speaker, life enhancement strategist, relationship coach, and author of Girl, You Can Win! says, “Lessons Learned serves as the medicine that heals the women stuck in their past failures, the motivation that encourages women to overcome their present fears and the inspiration women need to position themselves for a productive future.”

Tinisha is taking a stand by introducing to Black women a new way of thinking that has people talking and women everywhere viewing life in a different light.

Tinisha will appear at the All-Star Author Showcase hosted by The Black Academy of Arts and Letters being held on Saturday, February 13, 2010, from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM CT, at the Dallas Convention Center Theater Complex, 650 South Griffin Street, Dallas, Texas 75202.

On Monday, February 22, 2010, Tinisha will speak at Page-Walker Arts & History Center, 119 Ambassador Loop, Cary, North Carolina 27512, from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM EST.

Tinisha Nicole Johnson is an author of several published titles, freelance writer, poet and public speaker residing in Denver, Colorado. She holds an Associates Degree in Business Studies, a Paralegal Certificate and a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Management. To learn more about Tinisha, visit

For more information, to schedule an interview or appearance, please call Jessica Tilles at (301) 390-3645 or email

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Discovering The Joy Within....coming soon!

As I share this excerpt from my upcoming novel, Discovering The Joy Within, I think about my personal struggle with domestic abuse, both verbal/mental and physical, and I am so grateful to no longer be in that situation. It is my sincere prayer that if you or someone you know is in a similar situation, that you get OUT! If you or someone you know needs help please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit them online .

Together we can end domestic abuse, one page at a time.

Here's an excerpt from Discovering The Joy Within, enjoy.

The more she cried, the more her heart ached. Crouched in the corner with her head tucked between her knees, Jordyn released the inner pain that weighed heavily upon her slumping shoulders. She cried, yelled, pounded her fists against her head, and cried louder praying the tears would cleanse her soul.
“God, why?”

She never thought she’d find herself angry with God again and questioning Him but as she sat there in the darkness, the question refused to be repressed any longer. “WHY?”

All she wanted was to be loved and have a child to hold in her arms. She wanted a baby she could nurse and hold close to her heart. Jordyn longed for restless nights where she’d sit up rocking her little one to sleep, comforting him or her in her arms. She dreamed of hearing first words and seeing her baby take its first steps. It angered her that so many women aborted and abandoned children when she’d suffered not one, but three tragic miscarriages.

First, her twins were born three months early and only survived hours on this earth. God, she hated Carlos. She thought she’d moved beyond that handicap but in that moment she hated him more than she ever had. He took not one, but two babies away from her and never once showed an ounce of remorse. Bastard!

And then there was Eric, her husband-well, ex-husband. She never even got a chance to tell him she was pregnant. Before she could share that news with him he broke her heart and left her for another.
~Allyson M. Deese

Day 21...Have I Kicked The Wal-Mart Habit?

Today marks 21 days free of Wal-Mart for me. I feel pretty good about it. There haven't been any noticable withdrawal symptoms. I am able to shop in a Wal-Mart shopping center without so much as a look in the super-store's direction.
A few weeks ago, I spoke to a friend who kicked a similar habit. He gave up eating at McDonald's. The fact that he says he hasn't eaten at McDonald's in about five years gives me hope that I can actually get the Wal-Mart monkey off my back.

For those of you who are interested in breaking a habit, I've included an article on the subject I read on that may help.

How To Change/Break A Habit
It Takes 21 Days
Daily Activities To Help Change Habits
"I should change, but I've tried and failed." Does this sound familiar? Often, changing habits does seem insurmountable. Many of us simply don't have enough motivation to change our habits - all of our bad habits - in a way that would truly affect our health. We cling to them because we see them as rewards.

But your habits determine your health. Below is a strategy and focus on daily activities to help you change and eliminate bad habits.

It Takes 21 Days To Break A Bad Habit
To begin with, choose one unhealthy habit you wish to eliminate or change. Or, choose a healthy habit you want to adopt as part of your behavior. If it is a habit to eliminate, you may wish to go "cold turkey" or have a gradual tapering off. Caution: If it is a drug or chemical habit you are planning on eliminating, be sure to obtain an expert's opinion as to whether you need to taper off usage as opposed to quitting cold turkey.

Now that you have decided which unhealthy habit to eliminate, or new habit to adopt, decide on the date you will begin your behavior change. Give this date a good deal of thought and then write it down. For example, "On February 15, 2001, I will become a non-smoker."

In order to ensure behavior change, experts agree that it takes a minimum of 21 days to change a behavior. Again, look at the date you are planning on changing your habit. Count ahead 21 days and mark that date down. Now, make a commitment that you will follow your plan for 21 days.

Helpful Suggestions

Your target date has arrived. It is the first day of your 21-day cycle. Here are some helpful suggestions for habit change:

Write down your goal. There is magic in the written word when it applies to you. Experts recommend stating your goal in positive terms, such as "I want to be lean and physically fit," instead of "I've got to get this flabby body out there huffing and puffing." So, begin with writing down, as a positive goal, the habit you will change.

List your reasons for changing or eliminating your habit. Writing it down will force you to think out in specific terms what this habit represents in your life and the meaning you believe your life will hold for you upon changing the habit. This will also help with your commitment toward taking positive action.

Find substitute routines. For example, if you are changing eating habits and you have identified a particularly difficult time of the day when eating habits are poor, create an activity, a new routine for that time.

Talk to yourself. Tell yourself you're making progress. Remind yourself that you are moving closer to your goal.. Talk to yourself throughout the day about how you are going to avoid triggers that can get you off track and make healthy substitutes.

Recruit helpers for support. Explain to them why you are making this change. Ask for their support. Their support may be needed encouragement.

Be prepared for people who may sabotage your change. Be assertive and tell them what they are doing.
Sustaining Motivation

The following are some suggestions to follow each day in order to sustain motivation and determination:

Review your list of reasons for quitting or changing.

Create mental pictures of yourself as having already succeeded with your habit change.

Make affirmations, positive self-statements about your habit change. For example, "I am filled with so much health and vitality now that I exercise four times a week."

Reward yourself. Make up a list of self-rewards. Reward yourself verbally.

Remember to take one day at a time. If you do backslide, don't label yourself as having failed. Get out your list or reasons for quitting or changing and begin again.
Fatigue, boredom, depression, stress can all make it difficult to stick with your program. But having a relapse isn't as important as how you deal with the relapse. If you are so devastated by failure that you call your good intentions into question, that will make habit change harder for you. But, if you allow for an occasional relapse and treat it as nothing more than a slight misstep that teaches you something, then you're on the right track.

Follow the suggestions in this article, adopt the more helpful attitude of evaluating your progress and accepting relapses, and you will find yourself reaching many of your goals. You will have achieved true behavior change.


Friday, January 8, 2010

Everybody Wants Davis, the sexy male character of Office Affairs by Caramel Vixen

Davis Jackson is a hot commodity, and why wouldn't he be? I want him, too.
He's sexy as sin, with a heart of well as other organs. ;-)

I've had women of all ages, races, and marital statuses, ask me if Davis Jackson really exsisted, and if so, where was he, because they wanted him!!! Or at least wanted his single brother. :-)

Unfortunately, Davis only has eyes and a heart for Allysia, the BBW (big beautiful woman) of his dreams.

Here's an excerpt from Davis' point of view. Enjoy!

(Disclaimer: The following excerpt is explicit and for mature audiences only.)

Davis was sleeping soundly in the king-sized bed that he once shared with Carmen, his departed wife. God, how he missed that beautiful woman! At the same time, he longed for Allysia. Had Carmen been alive he wouldn’t see Allysia as anything more than a friend. As sexy as that woman was his devotion to his wife was dear to his heart. But Carmen wasn’t alive. Cancer had taken her away from him and his attraction to Allysia was very real.

Davis had dreamt of Carmen. She had given him her approval of Allysia. And no sooner than he took her into his arms she disappeared into the same thin air from where she appeared. This time he wasn’t sad though. This time he felt at peace. And when a very thick, sexy, and sassy Allysia appeared, he felt horny as hell and they made passionate love for hours on end.

“Get off of me, Davis! I wanna swallow every drop,” Allysia instructed him, her
voice filled with passion. He loved her take-charge attitude. Just before he released his love juices in Allysia’s mouth, Carmen appeared in the doorway with tears rolling down her face. Before he could run to her and grab her, she disappeared.

Davis awoke in a cold sweat with tears running down his face. He looked over at his alarm clock. It was just ten minutes before time to get up and get Tyshawn ready for school. He got up and went to the bathroom to wash his face. The last thing he wanted was for Tyshawn to see him crying. He then went back into his bedroom, turned off the alarm clock, and headed down the hallway to wake his son.

Thank you for taking the time to read this excerpt from Office Affairs by Caramel Vixen
to purchase the novel in its entirety visit Xpress Yourself Publishing

To my very own Davis, I look forward to meeting you.

Caramel Vixen

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Day 5...Life Without Wal-Mart

Okay folks,
Today was a little more challenging and really tested my commitment to my self-imposed 365-day Wal-Mart fast.
It is a chilly 30 degrees here in the sunny South and of course, I had errands to run this morning. I needed to pick up a few food items, light bulbs for my microwave, a bible cover, fireplace logs and a new fish for my desktop aquarium. All of these things could have easily been purchased (probably cheaper)at Wal-Mart. Boom! One stop and I'm done and back in the warmth and comfort of my home. Was I tempted? Hell to the yes! But I had to stay strong and honor the promise I made to myself. Ugh! No Wal-Mart this year. So, I traveled to four (4) different stores to gather what I needed. Luckily, they were all relatively close to each other.
I also realized something else today. Customer service really does exist! When I needed help finding the fireplace logs at Lowe's, not only did the worker tell me where to find them, she actually walked with me until I found them! Would this have happened at WallyWorld? My experience says "no". Hell, I can barely find a blue-vested person a Wal-Mart when I need them. And when I do luck upon the blue vest, it is usually comes complete with attitude.
Well, 5 down and 360 to go. Will I make it? Hmm...time will tell.

Until next time...peace,

Monday, January 4, 2010

Three People You Should Meet in January


Nikki is the quintessential girl next door with brains, beauty and a big heart. She leaves Mobile, Alabama for college life far away from home on the campus of Georgetown University. But no matter how hard she tries, she can't get away from her painful past. Nikki wants to love and be loved but is afraid that if she lets anyone in, she'll be hurt again.

Ahmad has it going on at every level and has his pick of women. He is one of the rising basketball stars for the Georgetown Hoyas but his time on the court is cut short by an awful tragedy. Ahmad is a good guy who constantly makes irresponsible choices that at one point, almost cost him everything.

Shannon, Nikki's emotionally damaged younger sister, also moves to the nation's capital to further her education at nearby Howard University. Both sisters share the same twisted family secret but deal with it differently. Shannon is on a mission to get as much as she can, by any means necessary. Her destructive behavior leaves everyone in her path shell-shocked.

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Friday, January 1, 2010

The Countdown Has Begun!

Happy New Year! Wow, I must say 2009 went by like a flash. Where did it go? That just goes to prove that life is but a vapor and we must make the most of each and every moment we are generously given.
Have you made your "resolutions" for 2010? What are your goals? Is it to stop smoking? Lose weight? Start a business? Find love? Go back to school? Well, whatever you have resolved, I encourage you to focus and to stick with it.
This year, I have decided to try to live 365 days without something that is very near and dear to a lot of us. It is going to be challenging but I believe I can do it. I realize that there are going to be days when I'll be tempted to relapse but I too, must stay focused.
I have named 2010 as the year without Wal-Mart. Yes, I said it. Wal-Mart. Now, before some of you get your thongs in a bunch, this is not an attempt to ignite a global ban or boycott against America's largest retailer. I am not a fool. It is just one woman's decision to spend her money in another store.In other words, my personal journey and I know that it will not change the Wal-Mart landscape. Like I said, it is personal.
Why? There are a few reasons but the main two are 1) I want to test the unwritten theory that Wal-Mart is essential to all life forms and 2) my last few visits to several Wal-Mart stores have truly tested my patience and religion (as if I don't have enough things in my life to do that).
Think about it. What did we do before Wal-Mart? Can anyone remember a time when there was no Wal-Mart.
There it is. My goal. No Wal-Mart for me this year. I plan to blog about it all year to let you know how I'm doing and I am interested in what your thoughts are on the subject. Can I do it? I don't know. I mean, like the rest of the world, Wal-Mart has been the "go to" place for all things for years for me, especially with children. One stop shopping for groceries, personal hygiene products, drugs, clothes, tires, pedicures, etc. As a matter of fact, I have already been tempted today when I realized that it is January 1 and I don't have a new calendar.
I didn't say it would be easy but I am determined.
Until next time....happy Wal-Mart-ing for the rest of the world.

Hazel Mills