Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Live Your Best Life!

A Tell All Book That Has Black Women Living A More Passionate and Fulfilling Life

Xpress Yourself Publishing announces the release of
Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself As A Black Woman by Denver, Colorado author Tinisha Nicole Johnson.

Statistics for black women range from status in careers, single parenting, and negative relationships with black men, to name a few. They are the minority of the minority and are put into a stand-alone category, facing challenges that other races of women may never face.
Lessons Learned: Loving Yourself As A Black Woman is a revolutionary book into the culture of Black women, revealing how to live a more passionate and fulfilling life, as well as addressing key issues such as self-worth, the definition of true happiness, and the five most common types of Black women.

Tanya White, empowerment speaker, life enhancement strategist, relationship coach, and author of Girl, You Can Win! says, “Lessons Learned serves as the medicine that heals the women stuck in their past failures, the motivation that encourages women to overcome their present fears and the inspiration women need to position themselves for a productive future.”

Tinisha is taking a stand by introducing to Black women a new way of thinking that has people talking and women everywhere viewing life in a different light.

Tinisha will appear at the All-Star Author Showcase hosted by The Black Academy of Arts and Letters being held on Saturday, February 13, 2010, from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM CT, at the Dallas Convention Center Theater Complex, 650 South Griffin Street, Dallas, Texas 75202.

On Monday, February 22, 2010, Tinisha will speak at Page-Walker Arts & History Center, 119 Ambassador Loop, Cary, North Carolina 27512, from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM EST.

Tinisha Nicole Johnson is an author of several published titles, freelance writer, poet and public speaker residing in Denver, Colorado. She holds an Associates Degree in Business Studies, a Paralegal Certificate and a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Management. To learn more about Tinisha, visit http://www.tinishanicolejohnson.com/.

For more information, to schedule an interview or appearance, please call Jessica Tilles at (301) 390-3645 or email

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Discovering The Joy Within....coming soon!

As I share this excerpt from my upcoming novel, Discovering The Joy Within, I think about my personal struggle with domestic abuse, both verbal/mental and physical, and I am so grateful to no longer be in that situation. It is my sincere prayer that if you or someone you know is in a similar situation, that you get OUT! If you or someone you know needs help please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit them online www.ndvh.org .

Together we can end domestic abuse, one page at a time.

Here's an excerpt from Discovering The Joy Within, enjoy.


The more she cried, the more her heart ached. Crouched in the corner with her head tucked between her knees, Jordyn released the inner pain that weighed heavily upon her slumping shoulders. She cried, yelled, pounded her fists against her head, and cried louder praying the tears would cleanse her soul.
“God, why?”

She never thought she’d find herself angry with God again and questioning Him but as she sat there in the darkness, the question refused to be repressed any longer. “WHY?”

All she wanted was to be loved and have a child to hold in her arms. She wanted a baby she could nurse and hold close to her heart. Jordyn longed for restless nights where she’d sit up rocking her little one to sleep, comforting him or her in her arms. She dreamed of hearing first words and seeing her baby take its first steps. It angered her that so many women aborted and abandoned children when she’d suffered not one, but three tragic miscarriages.

First, her twins were born three months early and only survived hours on this earth. God, she hated Carlos. She thought she’d moved beyond that handicap but in that moment she hated him more than she ever had. He took not one, but two babies away from her and never once showed an ounce of remorse. Bastard!

And then there was Eric, her husband-well, ex-husband. She never even got a chance to tell him she was pregnant. Before she could share that news with him he broke her heart and left her for another.
~Allyson M. Deese

Day 21...Have I Kicked The Wal-Mart Habit?

Today marks 21 days free of Wal-Mart for me. I feel pretty good about it. There haven't been any noticable withdrawal symptoms. I am able to shop in a Wal-Mart shopping center without so much as a look in the super-store's direction.
A few weeks ago, I spoke to a friend who kicked a similar habit. He gave up eating at McDonald's. The fact that he says he hasn't eaten at McDonald's in about five years gives me hope that I can actually get the Wal-Mart monkey off my back.

For those of you who are interested in breaking a habit, I've included an article on the subject I read on www.francesfarmersrevenge.com that may help.

How To Change/Break A Habit
It Takes 21 Days
Daily Activities To Help Change Habits
"I should change, but I've tried and failed." Does this sound familiar? Often, changing habits does seem insurmountable. Many of us simply don't have enough motivation to change our habits - all of our bad habits - in a way that would truly affect our health. We cling to them because we see them as rewards.

But your habits determine your health. Below is a strategy and focus on daily activities to help you change and eliminate bad habits.

It Takes 21 Days To Break A Bad Habit
To begin with, choose one unhealthy habit you wish to eliminate or change. Or, choose a healthy habit you want to adopt as part of your behavior. If it is a habit to eliminate, you may wish to go "cold turkey" or have a gradual tapering off. Caution: If it is a drug or chemical habit you are planning on eliminating, be sure to obtain an expert's opinion as to whether you need to taper off usage as opposed to quitting cold turkey.

Now that you have decided which unhealthy habit to eliminate, or new habit to adopt, decide on the date you will begin your behavior change. Give this date a good deal of thought and then write it down. For example, "On February 15, 2001, I will become a non-smoker."

In order to ensure behavior change, experts agree that it takes a minimum of 21 days to change a behavior. Again, look at the date you are planning on changing your habit. Count ahead 21 days and mark that date down. Now, make a commitment that you will follow your plan for 21 days.

Helpful Suggestions

Your target date has arrived. It is the first day of your 21-day cycle. Here are some helpful suggestions for habit change:

Write down your goal. There is magic in the written word when it applies to you. Experts recommend stating your goal in positive terms, such as "I want to be lean and physically fit," instead of "I've got to get this flabby body out there huffing and puffing." So, begin with writing down, as a positive goal, the habit you will change.

List your reasons for changing or eliminating your habit. Writing it down will force you to think out in specific terms what this habit represents in your life and the meaning you believe your life will hold for you upon changing the habit. This will also help with your commitment toward taking positive action.

Find substitute routines. For example, if you are changing eating habits and you have identified a particularly difficult time of the day when eating habits are poor, create an activity, a new routine for that time.

Talk to yourself. Tell yourself you're making progress. Remind yourself that you are moving closer to your goal.. Talk to yourself throughout the day about how you are going to avoid triggers that can get you off track and make healthy substitutes.

Recruit helpers for support. Explain to them why you are making this change. Ask for their support. Their support may be needed encouragement.

Be prepared for people who may sabotage your change. Be assertive and tell them what they are doing.
Sustaining Motivation

The following are some suggestions to follow each day in order to sustain motivation and determination:

Review your list of reasons for quitting or changing.

Create mental pictures of yourself as having already succeeded with your habit change.

Make affirmations, positive self-statements about your habit change. For example, "I am filled with so much health and vitality now that I exercise four times a week."

Reward yourself. Make up a list of self-rewards. Reward yourself verbally.

Remember to take one day at a time. If you do backslide, don't label yourself as having failed. Get out your list or reasons for quitting or changing and begin again.
Fatigue, boredom, depression, stress can all make it difficult to stick with your program. But having a relapse isn't as important as how you deal with the relapse. If you are so devastated by failure that you call your good intentions into question, that will make habit change harder for you. But, if you allow for an occasional relapse and treat it as nothing more than a slight misstep that teaches you something, then you're on the right track.

Follow the suggestions in this article, adopt the more helpful attitude of evaluating your progress and accepting relapses, and you will find yourself reaching many of your goals. You will have achieved true behavior change.

Source: www.francesfarmersrevenge.com


Friday, January 8, 2010

Everybody Wants Davis, the sexy male character of Office Affairs by Caramel Vixen

Davis Jackson is a hot commodity, and why wouldn't he be? I want him, too.
He's sexy as sin, with a heart of gold...as well as other organs. ;-)

I've had women of all ages, races, and marital statuses, ask me if Davis Jackson really exsisted, and if so, where was he, because they wanted him!!! Or at least wanted his single brother. :-)

Unfortunately, Davis only has eyes and a heart for Allysia, the BBW (big beautiful woman) of his dreams.

Here's an excerpt from Davis' point of view. Enjoy!

(Disclaimer: The following excerpt is explicit and for mature audiences only.)

Davis was sleeping soundly in the king-sized bed that he once shared with Carmen, his departed wife. God, how he missed that beautiful woman! At the same time, he longed for Allysia. Had Carmen been alive he wouldn’t see Allysia as anything more than a friend. As sexy as that woman was his devotion to his wife was dear to his heart. But Carmen wasn’t alive. Cancer had taken her away from him and his attraction to Allysia was very real.

Davis had dreamt of Carmen. She had given him her approval of Allysia. And no sooner than he took her into his arms she disappeared into the same thin air from where she appeared. This time he wasn’t sad though. This time he felt at peace. And when a very thick, sexy, and sassy Allysia appeared, he felt horny as hell and they made passionate love for hours on end.

“Get off of me, Davis! I wanna swallow every drop,” Allysia instructed him, her
voice filled with passion. He loved her take-charge attitude. Just before he released his love juices in Allysia’s mouth, Carmen appeared in the doorway with tears rolling down her face. Before he could run to her and grab her, she disappeared.

Davis awoke in a cold sweat with tears running down his face. He looked over at his alarm clock. It was just ten minutes before time to get up and get Tyshawn ready for school. He got up and went to the bathroom to wash his face. The last thing he wanted was for Tyshawn to see him crying. He then went back into his bedroom, turned off the alarm clock, and headed down the hallway to wake his son.

Thank you for taking the time to read this excerpt from Office Affairs by Caramel Vixen
to purchase the novel in its entirety visit Xpress Yourself Publishing

To my very own Davis, I look forward to meeting you.

Caramel Vixen

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Day 5...Life Without Wal-Mart

Okay folks,
Today was a little more challenging and really tested my commitment to my self-imposed 365-day Wal-Mart fast.
It is a chilly 30 degrees here in the sunny South and of course, I had errands to run this morning. I needed to pick up a few food items, light bulbs for my microwave, a bible cover, fireplace logs and a new fish for my desktop aquarium. All of these things could have easily been purchased (probably cheaper)at Wal-Mart. Boom! One stop and I'm done and back in the warmth and comfort of my home. Was I tempted? Hell to the yes! But I had to stay strong and honor the promise I made to myself. Ugh! No Wal-Mart this year. So, I traveled to four (4) different stores to gather what I needed. Luckily, they were all relatively close to each other.
I also realized something else today. Customer service really does exist! When I needed help finding the fireplace logs at Lowe's, not only did the worker tell me where to find them, she actually walked with me until I found them! Would this have happened at WallyWorld? My experience says "no". Hell, I can barely find a blue-vested person a Wal-Mart when I need them. And when I do luck upon the blue vest, it is usually comes complete with attitude.
Well, 5 down and 360 to go. Will I make it? Hmm...time will tell.

Until next time...peace,

Monday, January 4, 2010

Three People You Should Meet in January


Nikki is the quintessential girl next door with brains, beauty and a big heart. She leaves Mobile, Alabama for college life far away from home on the campus of Georgetown University. But no matter how hard she tries, she can't get away from her painful past. Nikki wants to love and be loved but is afraid that if she lets anyone in, she'll be hurt again.

Ahmad has it going on at every level and has his pick of women. He is one of the rising basketball stars for the Georgetown Hoyas but his time on the court is cut short by an awful tragedy. Ahmad is a good guy who constantly makes irresponsible choices that at one point, almost cost him everything.

Shannon, Nikki's emotionally damaged younger sister, also moves to the nation's capital to further her education at nearby Howard University. Both sisters share the same twisted family secret but deal with it differently. Shannon is on a mission to get as much as she can, by any means necessary. Her destructive behavior leaves everyone in her path shell-shocked.

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Friday, January 1, 2010

The Countdown Has Begun!

Happy New Year! Wow, I must say 2009 went by like a flash. Where did it go? That just goes to prove that life is but a vapor and we must make the most of each and every moment we are generously given.
Have you made your "resolutions" for 2010? What are your goals? Is it to stop smoking? Lose weight? Start a business? Find love? Go back to school? Well, whatever you have resolved, I encourage you to focus and to stick with it.
This year, I have decided to try to live 365 days without something that is very near and dear to a lot of us. It is going to be challenging but I believe I can do it. I realize that there are going to be days when I'll be tempted to relapse but I too, must stay focused.
I have named 2010 as the year without Wal-Mart. Yes, I said it. Wal-Mart. Now, before some of you get your thongs in a bunch, this is not an attempt to ignite a global ban or boycott against America's largest retailer. I am not a fool. It is just one woman's decision to spend her money in another store.In other words, my personal journey and I know that it will not change the Wal-Mart landscape. Like I said, it is personal.
Why? There are a few reasons but the main two are 1) I want to test the unwritten theory that Wal-Mart is essential to all life forms and 2) my last few visits to several Wal-Mart stores have truly tested my patience and religion (as if I don't have enough things in my life to do that).
Think about it. What did we do before Wal-Mart? Can anyone remember a time when there was no Wal-Mart.
There it is. My goal. No Wal-Mart for me this year. I plan to blog about it all year to let you know how I'm doing and I am interested in what your thoughts are on the subject. Can I do it? I don't know. I mean, like the rest of the world, Wal-Mart has been the "go to" place for all things for years for me, especially with children. One stop shopping for groceries, personal hygiene products, drugs, clothes, tires, pedicures, etc. As a matter of fact, I have already been tempted today when I realized that it is January 1 and I don't have a new calendar.
I didn't say it would be easy but I am determined.
Until next time....happy Wal-Mart-ing for the rest of the world.

Hazel Mills